High Resolution Virtual Relating

During the last two-plus years, throughout the pandemic, we’ve been personally and collectively challenged to build social structures that we find nurturing and rewarding. We've had to change our way of relating in order to maintain a sense of connection. Communication has shifted into the virtual realm of checking in and the mode of doing business, coaching and energy medicine has been altered by social distancing. Even now, as social gatherings begin to open back up, many people and businesses are continuing with online formats of connecting.

One of the most striking changes in our world is the wide use of online video for teaching, coaching and therapy sessions. It’s a huge shift from working with clients face-to-face. For those unaccustomed with this virtual world, they have expressed feeling a lack of intimacy, disconnection and energetic burnout from screen fatigue with the application of our internet technologies. We’re now exploring new opportunities to go deeper with clients, to access new skills so we can pick up on subtle physical and emotional cues for reading a more subtle layer of communication that was more accessible in person. We've had to build our resiliency and learn how to quiet our own anxiety about working online, to generate a quality of contact that feels more intimate on-screen.

For 3 decades, I've been working in the energetics of relating and evolutionary healing, whether people were coming to my studio in-person or working with me by phone. Now, with virtual technology (due to social distancing and working with global clients,) my computer seemingly sits between me and my client in the physical. Initially, it was a new experience to work in this way and upgrade my ability to get true readings on the energy. I knew I had to make a shift in my relationship with all that was integral to the client's session and remain in the established sacred space that honours both my energetic integrity and the deep connection wth my client. As I explored this, I uncovered a belief structure of separation that viewed the computer as separate from me and the internet separate from my client, even though I was aware that time and space did not faction into this energetic exchange.

Go way beyond the resolution settings on your computer screen!

I’d like to offer you four practices to deepen the experience of virtual contact that heightens a sense of connection and grounded mutual care. We can practice a way of deeply relating to other people via the screen, as if we're in the room together, sensing our physical ecology (in order to stave off screen fatigue) and providing emotional connections that assist us in providing guidance based on totality and establishing intimate conversations. 

First, we must understand that our internet technology is simply an extension of our own nervous system, the flow of our energetic data and ultimately, the planet’s web of life.

Take your conversation beyond a meeting of minds. Accept the internet and computer screen as a reflection that is part of your nervous system exchange - an 'inner-net' that is part of a web of connection versus a medium of visually mechanical separation.

What I’m about to share with you is asking for a longer preparation time before an online event or call with someone. For those of us incorporating energy medicine in our work, you can simply add it to your sacred space ritual. The following practices are essential for virtual intimacy and deep mutual connection.

Begin by making self-contact with your own inner ecology! This is the necessary self-care that is required to avoid screen fatigue on or off-line.

4 Practices for Your High Resolution Virtual Relating:

• Self-Referencing /Body-Centred

• Invite Nature to Participate

• Conscious Resonance /Heart-centred Mutual Relating

• Group Coherence in a Field of Presence

  1.Self-Referencing: This is an ongoing practice of felt connection and inner inquiry. Drop into your body through your breath. By slowing your exhalation, it triggers the nervous system to relax, so you can use the wave of your breath to create a feeling of relaxation. Once you’re connected to the energized parts of your body, you can deepen your sensing into a higher resolution, becoming more aware of your entire body. Expand your awareness from the resourced parts of your body into the more stressed or tense areas of your body. Remain present with all that arises. Eventually, you’ll become well-centred in your body as you release the busyness of the mind and then, you can move deeper into your emotional tides in the moment.  Your body is the temple of your living experience.

2. Invite nature to participate: Create an energetic cone that establishes a sacred sphere of coherency. Nature's elements will nurture you and those participating on the call and fuel the conversation. This is well known to those of us who set a circle before doing energy work.

3.Conscious Resonance/Mutual Relating: Take a moment to tune in with the person or people on the screen and invite the technological medium to play a part in your connection. Expand this resonance field into a global connection that includes the web of life. You’re sensing the group bodies combined with your whole body - sensing into the movement of united coherence. Our bodies are very intelligent and we receive a lot of information through our cells and our nervous system, especially when we’re open and receptive. Conscious heart-centred resonance with others is intended to simply feel into the current state of all participants. We are making the space to resonate with the people on the screen to get a sense of their emotional experience. When you attune with other people, (which means our nervous systems is aligning into a state of coherence in the moment,) we strengthen the data flow of our relating together. This creates a high-resolution streaming experience of relating that allows them to feel you feeling them.

When you sync your nervous systems, you generate a field of coherence that is present and alive. This field becomes the solid foundation for collaboration that is loving and true. This includes data from our group unintegrated past that translates as reduced or constricted data transfer in the nervous system.

For those of us who work as spiritual teachers, coaches, healers or therapists, we can dive deeper and sense how we are attuned to each other in the unknown field of presence and mystery. This requires a very fine perception that we learned as children.

4.Group Coherence in A Field of Presence: Establishing a coherent field of presence/wholeness generates a powerful enlivened field of mutuality. Now we can feel the whole system that is created by all of us being present together. There is a group resonance body that builds energetic substance that can be called upon to augment the communication. This collective presence is akin to a circle of people gathered together in the physical. This group presence is a powerful resource - the higher it is, the more intelligent the network. When every participant of the collective feels the group wholeness, the group matrix is represented within the inner perception of everyone. Group coherence gives something back to each participant, including a high energy data flow.

Now, that is what I call high-resolution virtual relating!